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Top 3 Reasons Couples Get Divorced


No one who gets married thinks they’re going to get divorced, but reportedly 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Why is there a discrepancy between the number of people who say “as long as we both shall live” and the divorce rate? In this blog post, Hollingsworth & Zivitz will answer this question by examining the top 3 causes of divorce.

1. Infidelity

Unsurprisingly, infidelity is the number one cause of divorce. It’s reported that nearly 20% of all divorces are caused by infidelity by one or both spouses. However, an extra-marital affair is typically the climax of an already hurting marriage.

Common factors leading to infidelity include:

  • Anger;
  • Resentment;
  • Sexual dissatisfaction; and
  • Lack of emotional intimacy.

The next reason couples get divorced is not surprising, as it's known for being a worrying topic

2. Money

Money is a stressful topic, and when you add someone else to the equation, you get a lot of arguing and much frustration. However, money affects couples differently depending on the dynamic of the relationship.

Examples of money-related marital problems include:

  • A power struggle resulting from one spouse making more money than another.
  • Different short and long-term financial goals.
  • Unaligned spending habits.
  • The stress of a financial situation turning into marital conflict.

The third-highest cause of divorce is something all good relationships need: communication.

3. Lack of Communication

Communication is an essential part of any good relationship; unfortunately, many people don’t know how to communicate effectively. A lack of communication will break down a marriage, causing both spouses to grow in hostility towards one another.

Common signs of bad communication include:

  • Failing to share expectations;
  • Feeling unheard;
  • Feeling misunderstood;
  • Feeling uncared for; and
  • Yelling or back-handed comments.

What if I’m Ready to File?

Some couples can overcome these issues, but that’s not always possible. If you are ready to file for divorce, our firm can help. With decades of collective family law experience, we know how to handle your case.

Call (515) 305-2772 now to schedule a consultation.